Save Your Marriage - Conflict-Resolving Skills Matter More Than Compatibility

You may be wondering if divorce is the only option left for you when faced with a struggling marriage. Your marriage is in conflict and there are issues that needs to be resolved with your spouse. Without warning, the marriage is now filled with unhappiness. The loving feelings you once shared with your spouse have disappeared. You begin to wonder if both of you were compatible at all in the first place. Now you begin to wonder if it is necessary to stay married at all.

Here is a challenge..... Take time to think if your happiness in marriage is based solely on weather or not you are compatible with your spouse because compatibility should not be the only deciding factor as whether your marriage will last or not.  Instead, you should understand that happiness in your relationship comes from how you deal with incompatibility. This one essential skill is missing in so many marriages today and thus we are seeing marriages dissolve at an alarming rate.

Every marriages will definitely go through periods of conflict at some point. Rather than focus so much on finding compatibility with your spouse, you must focus on learning healthy conflict resolution. Do not simply decide to throw in the towel and give up your marriage when faced with a problem. Sometimes, the problem is so small that all is needed is talking things out openly and honestly.

The main point I hope to make clear is that your marriage's success or failure will depend largely on two major things that you CAN have a bit of control over; You can make the choice to learn how to do these two things better:

1. Develop the ability to work through difficulties that you face
2. Develop good communication skills

The next time you are faced with a conflict in your marriage, remember that compatibility is not the factor in making a happy marriage. Focus more on communication and conflict-resolving. You will be suprise that if both you and your spouse work towards developing and refining the above skills, you can save your marriage from divorce.

Too many marriages end up in a divorce. It is time you save your marriage and stop divorce.
Sometimes talking to a third party such as seeking marriage counseling can help. Do not be afraid to seek help from others when you are faced with a troubled marriage. It is a small inconvenience to "pay" compared to having a happy and blissful marriage.