Marriage Conflict - The Result of Poor Planning

If anyone tells you that being married is easy and blissful take note. That person is lying!

All marriages will face a challege from day one. Sorry but I do not want to be a wet blanket but that is a fact.

I know because I have been married for 19 years.

When you just got married it is obvious that both of you are deeply in love and are not capable of thinking rationally. The honeymoon period is like a dream. Your thinking will be clouded by love. Shortly after your marriage and when the honeymoon period is over, reality sets in. That is when marriage conflicts begin.

Suddenly everything begin to change. You and your spouse will be faced with issues that were not talked about or thought about prior to your wedding.

Marriage Problems

Suddenly the marriage involves making decisions and questions that need answers and actions.

The truth is most couples jump the gun. They are not fully ready to shoulder the responsibilities of being married. They get married too soon. They get married too fast.

Be it for love and romance, or for the sake of a baby that's on the way, or two kids just looking for a way to get out of their parents house, improper planning is one of the root causes of marriage conflict.

Marriage is about two people who are in love and decide to become legally bound in matrimony. One of the marriage vow taken is "Till Death Do Us Part".... Even though it is only 5 words, if you look "in depth", planning must be done before taking the plunge. A marriage involves union of two people of different background, behaviour, beliefs etc.

A marriage is like a business. For any business to be successful, it must start with a business plan. It is no exception to a marriage. Marriage involves more than just being deeply in love. You cannot live on love alone. As your marriage progresses, it involves how money is spend, it involves children, it involves jobs and anything else that is important for the future of the marriage. All these issues needs to be addressed. All successful marriage must start with a successful marriage plan.

A marriage plan is flexible and can be change to suit current situation. So if you are already married and are now faced with marriage problems it is never too late to put a plan together. Sit down with your spouse and work out a marriage plan to save your marriage. I cannot emphasize enough that a marriage plan is absolutely conducive to marriage survival.

A wise man once said "Make your plan - and then work it"

Never too shy to seek help from others when faced with marriage conflict. Most of the time marriage counseling can help you identify problems and find a solution that have eluded you and your spouse because of anger, hate and resentment. It will be sad to end a marriage without having a clear understanding what went wrong in the same place.